Sometimes The Best Thing You Can Do For Your Children Is To Get A Massage

Seems a little counterintuitive, I know, but sometimes the best thing for your family is for you to take some time away just for you. Massages not your thing? How about a pedicure, new haircut, go shopping (just for you, no groceries or stopping at Carter's allowed) or take a stroll through a local trail. The point is to do something that lets you relax and have some "me time".

Why is this so important? Well, in short, being a parent is a tough job and comes with a lot of stress. The hours are long, the work is demanding and you rarely hear "you're doing a great job!" and sometimes you need a break. This doesn't make you a "bad" parent, in fact, it makes you a good one. You can't be expected to be at the top of everything that's going on in your house and with everyone in it if you're not at your best. Sometimes it may be as simple as stepping away for a few minutes and taking a deep breath just to clear your head.

Our society runs on an independent system. We are groomed to believe that you are "good" if you are able to do things alone. We praise children when they can do something for themselves and believe that if a child is able to soothe themselves, sleep by themselves or play by themselves it is a reflection of the  "good" parenting they received. And yet, we wonder why it is so difficult for people to ask for help or be a part of a team.

Well, I'm here to tell you that it is indeed okay to ask for help. Asking for help is not a sign of weakness, but a sign of strength. Know your limits and abilities and seek assistance when something is too difficult, physically, emotionally or otherwise. So yes, go ahead and take an extra hour when you're out shopping to stop for some secret ice cream. You know your children are safe, take some time for yourself, you deserve it!